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Why not take a day out and pamper yourself? PDF  | Print |  E-mail

By ALVA CARPENTER

 

Occasionally it is good for you to take time out to give your body the care and attention it needs and to give yourself permission to take your time and enjoy it.

Start with a lie-in. Not too long or you can end up feeling sluggish; just enough to give your body a rest. Give yourself permission to forget your worries and relax. Begin the day well. When you wake up, start your day with a glass of hot water and a slice of lemon to cleanse your skin and liver.

Stretch into the Day

Don’t spring out of bed. Start with some gentle stretching exercises. Starting with your feet, make circles with your toes, keeping your heels on the mattress. Then slowly work up your body. Circle your hands, do five shoulder shrugs to relieve stress, followed by neck stretches. Point your fingertips to the ceiling and stretch your arms.

Enjoy a Healthy Low-Cal Breakfast

Try a homemade fruit smoothie. Blend soft berries with plain low fat yoghurt with a little runny honey for sweetness. Drink fresh juice and try a cup of green tea if you can.

Hair Treat

Gulf hair bakes in the sun and always needs extra conditioning. Gently warm some olive oil or coconut oil in the microwave for 10 seconds. Massage into the scalp for 2 minutes to feed the follicles and into the ends of the hair.

Cleanse your Skin

There are plenty of natural moisturisers around. Exfoliate your skin with a mild face scrub and rinse with cold water. Make your own facemask. You probably spend loads of money on skin care, so why not splash out on the real thing and use all natural ingredients? Live bio-yoghurt is a great base and add some mashed papaya. Fruit acids have been used for centuries to beautify the skin and are commonplace ingredients in expensive skin creams. Apply to the skin and leave on for at least 5 minutes before rinsing off with cold water.

Facial Exercises

We exercise to keep the rest of our bodies toned and youthful, and to prevent gravity from taking over, but as we age we use our facial muscles less and less and our faces can descend too. But with daily exercise and massage you will see a real change: Far more effective than any ‘lifting’ creams. Exercise can help prevent soft jaw lines developing and can also tighten up existing problems. If you are not sure what to do, you can send for my facial exercises by emailing to This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .

Bathroom Retreat

Run a warm bath and add a few drops of your favorite essential oil. Lavender is a good one. Frankincense is great for young looking skin and it will rejuvenate the whole body whilst you relax. Don’t be tempted to read, just put your head back on a towel, put two slices of cucumber on your eyelids and relax for about ten minutes.

Exfoliator

Follow your bath with a cool shower and use exfoliating cream to scrub your body. Exfoliation dislodges dead skin cells and speeds up cell renewal. This helps stop skin becoming crêpey as you grow older. Now is the time to shower off hair oil. Shampoo and condition your hair. Leave the conditioner on for 5 minutes, towel off and feed your body with body lotion.

Facial Massage

Give your face a gentle massage with your favorite moisturiser. Don’t forget your lips too. A massage keeps skin looking nice and plump. Throughout the day drink plenty of water to cleanse your system and keep you hydrated.

Tip

If you find worries or negative thoughts creep into your mind, banish them by concentrating on what you are doing and by taking really deep, refreshing breaths.

Take Care of your Hands

Hands are real age indicators and are often forgotten when applying sunscreen. Give your hands a gentle massage in warm olive oil. It also softens the cuticles to enable you to take care of your nails.

Perfect Time for Lunch

You haven’t been doing anything too strenuous so lunch can be light. Indulge in your favorite brightly coloured salad with a whole meal roll. My favorite is salad Niçoise, with plenty of green leaves. After lunch, how a bout a siesta or just lie down for half an hour and listen to music or read a book.

Tackle your Feet

Partly fill a bowl with warm water and add a few drops of lavender oil. Gently massage your feet and toes, shape nails and push back cuticles.

For the remainder of your Time-In just relax. Watch a romantic video or spend an hour or so reading a book. Enjoy!

 
16 ways to make this Eid special for your family PDF  | Print |  E-mail

By Sound Vision Staff Writer

 

For a number of Muslim families, Eid is simply a twice-yearly routine that doesn’t change: get up, pray Fajr, eat breakfast, go pray, hug Eid Mubarak, come home, maybe go out, maybe have people over, eat, eat, eat, get gifts or Eid money, eat and sleep.

This year, why not make Eid the special holiday that it is? Here are some ideas of things you can do with the family to get out of the usual routine.

1. Plan in advance

Call a family meeting a week before and plan what you want to do on Eid day. Invite others over in the afternoon, and have dinner at a restaurant in the evening? Or vice-versa? Discuss ideas with the family, including all of the kids.

Also, talk about the menu and delegate cooking responsibilities instead of dumping the whole workload on mom.

And make sure EVERYONE has a day off from work, school or any other commitments.

2. Clean and decorate the home

Get everyone in on this. Make the house as sparkling clean as you can. If there is enough time and the weather is warm, consider white washing the house and putting mattresses and bedding outside to air out.

Then, once the house is virtually spotless, decorate it with balloons, lights, banners, streamers,etc. Get the younger kids involved in this process. Have them make decorative signs saying “Eid Mubarak” and post these around the house.

Put an Islamic song on the CD or cassette player so everyone can sing or hum along while they work. The ideal one would be A Whisper of Peace which features the song “These are the Days of Eid”.

3. Make special food

Make something special which the family does not normally eat, it can be sweet, sour or in-between. The point is that Eid is special, and the food we eat on this day should be better and different from our usual meals.

4. Set up a family gift exchange

Put each family member’s name in a Kufi and have each person pull one out. Whoever picks a person’s name has to buy or make that person a gift. One catch: babies have to get gifts from everyone.

5. Have the kids make gifts for each other

If you’re not into the gift exchange idea and want everyone to get a present try this. Arts and crafts are the best tool for making these gifts. They are personal and cheap and save useless trips to the shopping center.

You can have the kids collect all of the odds and ends they find during the Eid house clean up in a box. Then they can use these things to make strange but meaningful Eid gifts .

6. Buy new clothes

Kids will not feel Eid is special if they are sporting the same Shalwar Kameez, suit or Thobe they’ve worn on Eid for the last two years. Invest in Eid and get them something new. Or at least get everyone to prepare nice clothes for Eid by washing or getting them dry cleaned.

7. Do this as you plan for new clothes

Have everyone go through their clothes and toys (for kids) to find items they have outgrown. Then arrange to have them sold through a garage sale and give the money to a local Masjid or community fundraising event.

The money can also be sent to Chechnya, Palestine, Kosova, etc.

8. Wash the car

Who wants to go to Eid prayers in a dirt stained car filled with gum wrappers and cookie crumbs? And think about what will happen to everyone’s nice Eid clothes sitting in a vehicle like that! Get the car clean and ready. Everyone should help with this. One person vacuums, another cleans the windows, a third person washes the exterior, etc.

If possible get the car checked and fill up the gas tank so you don’t end up with any Eid day surprises.

9. At Eid prayer, look for those who are alone and invite them over

At the Eid prayer place, where a lot of hugging goes on, you will find some Muslims standing alone. They are either new Muslims or new immigrants without relatives and friends here. Do hug and greet them. If possible invite them to your home for a meal. Also inform them of any planned Eid celebrations at any community center.

10. Go to a Muslim restaurant to eat as a family

Not only will you have a family outing on Eid day this way, but you’ll be supporting a Muslim business. If the food and service are good,put in a good word for the restaurant to your friends.

11. Record Eid day events

From the time everyone wakes up in the morning till everyone conks out happily at the end of the day, record this Eid on video or audio to make it memorable. It will probably make a hilarious piece of family history as well. Give the responsibility for recording to one of the responsible, technologically adept members of the family.

12. Head For the open road!

Drive the family out into the countryside and try to get lost on some unfamiliar roads, challenging the kids to help remember the way home. (Always keep change for the pay-phone, a map andsome food for everyone just in case it takes longer to get back).

13. Visit a homeless shelter or food bank and donate your extra Eid food

Also do some Dawa by telling workers at the shelter what Eid, charity in Islam and Ramadan are about. Bring pamphlets and other written material. The visit can help remind everyone what it was like when they were hungry while fasting during the month of Ramadan.

14. Share Eid with your neighbors

Make dessert (something simple that everyone likes, like chocolate cake) and write up a short definition about Eid on a decorative card or small posterboard. Share this with your neighbors.

15. Visit relatives and friends

Visit those far away especially. There is almost no better time than Eid.It’s also a great way to acquaint the kids with their relatives near and far.

16. Make Eid evening family entertainment night

If 16-year-old Jameel knows how to play the Duff, while his sister Amira, 14, can write and sing well, let them prepare a few songs for Eid night family entertainment. Also, have 12-year-old Ridwan recite some of his best poetry. Make one of the teens in charge of this event. Help them establish a criteria of Halal entertainment.

 
Divorce in the Shari’ah PDF  | Print |  E-mail

“Generally speaking married couples make their best efforts to continue their marital relations in cordiality and happiness.”(1) There are those occasions where it becomes impossible for a couple to maintain a viable relationship (i.e. neglect, abuse, etc.). In these cases “the Shari’ah takes a very reasonable view of such an intolerable situation and instead of forcing the couple to stay together....”(2) it permits a divorce.

There are three kinds of divorce in Islam:

The first is Talaq (by the husband) and the second is Talaq Al-Bida’h (Divorce of Innovation) and Khul’ (by the wife).

Talaq

Talaq has two forms:

1. Talaq ar-Raji’: (revocable divorce) which has two types:

• Talaq Ahsan: (the most approved divorce). It is meant as a means to heal the breach between a couple and allow for the soothing of frayed nerves. It has three conditions. The husband must only pronounce one Talaq. The Talaq must be only pronounced when the wife is in a state of purity. The husband must abstain from sexual contact with his wife for the ‘iddah (the waiting period) which is three months.

• Talaq Hasan: (approved). In this form divorce is pronounced in three successive periods. After the first two the husband has the right to take his wife back if they so desire to reunite but if he pronounces divorce a third time it becomes irrevocable. The wife must marry another at this time.

2. Talaq al-Bain: (irrevocable divorce). This is a divorce that with three pronouncements in successive sittings or at the same sitting or before the consummation of the marriage. There is no return allowed under these circumstances unless the woman has an intervening marriage.

“Talaq is a right available mainly to the husband, but not to the wife. Even though Islam allows divorce, the Prophet (pbuh) says: ‘Of all things that Islam has permitted, divorce is the most hated by Allah.’ Hasty and wanton use of the right of divorce is regarded as most condemnable in Islam.” (3)

Surah Al-Baqarah 229: “A divorce is only permissible twice. After that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness.”

This could be likened to the “three strikes and you’re out” policy.

Talaq Al-Bida’h (Divorce of Innovation)

This was a type of divorce that made its appearance after the death of the Prophet (pbuh). It is where the man pronounces Talaq three times at one sitting or sends it in writing to his wife. This is a sin against the precepts of the Shari’ah and was severely denounced by the Prophet and Khalif `Umar would whip a husband who did such a thing.

Khul’

This a divorce that is instigated by the wife. It is where she applies to a Qadi for divorce.

Surah An-Nisa’ 128 : If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best; even though men’s souls are swayed by greed. But if you practice self-restraint, Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.

In the case of Khul’, the wife must return all or part of the mahr (the dower). A case in point, where the woman would be allowed to keep the mahr, is what Imam Malik said and that was if a wife was forced by her husband to enter Khul’, she would be entitled to get the mahr back.

 
How to Take a Herbal Full Body Bath PDF  | Print |  E-mail

by Di-Di Hoffman appeared in Timeless Herb Secrets

 

Full body baths are the most beneficial baths that can be taken and are, as we all know, very pleasant. They have been used for centuries as specific therapeutic aids in the treatment of disorders and for their beautifying effect.

To obtain the most from a therapeutic herbal body bath apply the following guidelines:

* Never take a full body bath within two hours after meals. The best time for a hydrotherapy treatment is about three hours after breakfast, which is a luxury most of us can’t afford. The best time for most of us is just before retiring in the evening.

* Water temperature is important. Never start with an extreme. The ideal temperature is one that is agreeable to you, unless giving some particular treatment for effects. Rather increase or decrease the water temperature gradually as needed.

* Cold baths should be brief and should be avoided during menstruation.

* Room temperature is also important and there should be good ventilation - but no drafts. As a precaution against taking a cold, especially in winter, always decrease the temperature of the bath before you get out.

* Atmosphere is also important if you are taking a long, warm, relaxing bath to wash away the day’s stress and tension. Take appropriate measures such as soft music, candle light, etc.

* Rest after a therapeutic herbal body bath is very important as this will add to its beneficial results. Try to lie down for at least an hour, preferably longer, immediately after your bath and keep yourself covered.

* Try to take a therapeutic bath every three to four days.

herbal body bathTherapeutic herbal body baths are beneficial to almost any condition you can think of. They are commonly used (prescribed) as home remedies in the treatment of the following conditions: arthritis, colds, colic, constipation, gall-stones, gout, neuralgia, rheumatism, sciatica, stress, tension. etc.

The article herbal bath ideas will give you an indication of which herbs are commonly used as remedies for the 12 most common disorders.

You can add any of your favourite herbs to your herbal bath or you can make up a formula that will be of benefit to whatever condition you want to alleviate. Use the standard recipe below as a guideline for your own creations and let me know of your trials and tribulations.

Aromatherapists make extensive use of full body baths, and theirs is to a certain extent a more standardized bath than a herbal bath, as most quality aromatherapy oils are of a known strength. However, this in not to say that a full body bath with aromatherapy oils is superior to a herbal bath.

Standard Herbal Body Bath Recipe.

You can either prepare an infusion (or decoction) which you add to the bath water, or you can place a handful of the herb in a muslin bag (or old stocking) which is suspended from the hot water tap so that the water flows through it.

For a stronger effect I often use a combination of these methods. I tie the herbs into the bag and first make the infusion or decoction. (Sometimes we will simmer the herbs for 10 to 20 minutes in a closed container) Then we add the resulting infusion or decoction to the water and we tie the bag to the hot water tap.

When making an infusion or decoction you usually use two cups of water and up to half a cup of the herb or formula. If you are using fresh herbs use more. Exact quantities are not that critical as the infusion will be diluted in the bath water. Apply common sense.

 
The importance of reading to your child PDF  | Print |  E-mail

By: Michelle Al-Nasr

 

By reading to our children we not only teach them that learning is fun, we show them by our own example.

Allaah Almighty Says (what means): “…Allaah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees…”[Quran 58: 11]

While it is true that the knowledge that is referenced to in the above verse is regarding Islamic knowledge, there is no doubt that throughout Islamic history from the time of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, until present day there has been a common understanding that striving to learn and educate ourselves is a vital part of being a Muslim.

We know from our rich history that Muslims hold the highest ranks in scientific, medical, mathematical and astronomical discoveries – and because of that our scholars have been envied for many years.

It is so important that we pass on our wonderful legacy of learning to our children, and one of the best ways to accomplish that is to read to them. By reading to them, we not only teach them that learning is fun, we show them by our own example.

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said: “Only two persons deserve to be envied, firstly, a person to whom Allaah has given wealth and bestowed upon him guidance to spend in a righteous cause, and secondly, a person upon whom Allaah has bestowed wisdom by which he judges and which he teaches.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

With reading come the benefit and the gift of knowledge – more precious to our children than anything else we could ever buy them or give them. Reading to comprehend helps them to understand their religion and therefore teach it to others. We know that reading is at the heart of all learning, but especially being able to read and understand the Quran and the Hadeeth.

Not only it is important that we teach our children English, but also Arabic to the best of our ability. In this way, they can experience the Quran as it is in its pure form.

It is not only important to teach our children to read, but for us to read to them and listen to them while they are reading. By listening to them, we can hear and correct their mistakes and encourage them to sound out new words they are unfamiliar with. Some statistics showed that approximately 40 percent of all fourth graders in the United States cannot read and understand a simple paragraph from a children’s book – and that is pitiful.

We need to get together in our communities and start reading groups for our children to encourage them to turn off the video games and televisions in the house and pick up a book. Whether it is a work of fiction screened by mom or a biography about one of our beloved Prophet’s, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, it is vital that we get our children reading.

It is one of the easiest ways in which to involve yourself in their education and show them you care. Make a plan and read a book together, and then spend time to discuss it, explain it and ask questions. Ask them what they anticipate will happen next, or what they think should have happened.

Ten proactive things you can do:

•As you read together, stop and ask your children the picture in the book and what is happening in the story.

•Read from a variety of children’s books.

•When reading a book where the print is large, point word by word as you read. This will help your children learn that reading goes from left to right (or right to left for Arabic books) and understand that the words they say are the words they see.

•Read your children’s favorite books with them over and over again to build understanding and recognition.

•For smaller children, pronounce each word clearly and a little slower than you would normally read it.

•Read stories with your children that feature rhyming words and lines that repeat. Invite your children to join in on these parts by pointing word by word as they read along with you.

•Discuss new words. Ask them to make a new sentence with that new word to make sure they understand the meaning.

•Listen and watch how your children read and understand written materials.

•If your child is old enough, assign a book every two weeks and have them write a book report for you. Get creative with book reports by making them more interactive, such as choosing a book about a country then cooking a traditional dish from that area.

•Find books that can be read as plays and get the whole family involved in reading their parts with different voices.

Our children intimate us in every way

Our children’s likes and dislikes are often a result our own. So it goes to reason, “If books are part of loving parents - child interactions from an early age, children will associate the presence of books with all of the positive feelings of being held and loved. Undoubtedly, these associations are encoded in a profound way in a child’s developing brain. Picture books provide an ideal context for parents – child interactions that are loving and stimulating.”

Furthermore, as researches and studies conducted by pediatricians indicate, “growing up healthy means much more than the absence of disease. It means growing up with love and attention, and acquiring spoken and written language. It is exciting to offer a child a beautiful book and watch it do its works, cast its spell.” Dr. Robert Needlman, Division of Behavioral Pediatrics and Psychology, Rainbow Babies’ and Children’s Hospital, Cleveland, Ohio

So with the overwhelming evidence, in addition to our own religion and history to back us up, we should be motivated to encourage the next generation of scholars, scientists and doctors by heading out to our local libraries and check out a book. We are raising our future, and what we leave our children with today will be something that will benefit the generations to come. Abu Hurayra, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated a meaningful Hadeeth in which the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said: “When a man dies, all his acts come to an end but three; recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him (for the deceased).” [Muslim]

 

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